This article was originally published in Best Life on July 12, 2019, quoting Peaceful Way Psychology’s own sex therapist, Danica Mitchell.
We hate to break it you, but if you’re looking for an easy answer on how much sex you should be having with your partner, you won’t find it. When it comes to relationships, different partners, sexual preferences, and the physical or emotional state you and your significant other are in all play major roles in determining what’s right for you. Even if you’re happy with your sex life, you could be asking yourself: Am I having enough sex?
And you wouldn’t be alone, either. “Couples very often grossly overestimate how much sex other people are having and compare themselves to inaccurate ideals,” explains Danica Mitchell, an NYC-based sex therapist and social worker.
The reality is, it’s complicated. There is no hard and fast number for how often happy couples have sex, but there are important conversations you should have with your partner to determine what’s right for you. To help you navigate this complex space, we asked the experts all your burning questions about what’s “normal” when it comes to sex.